2023 Was a Learning Experience to Say the Least

I’ve had the task of writing this blog on my agenda each month this year, but could never really find the time to complete it. I’ve been going through a lot with work, content creation, and my body. Let’s briefly recap my year so we can all get caught up with what’s “Next” for me, for us.

Let’s start with my health. In a matter of 6 months my body went through a change that I wasn’t expecting, I gained weight. Like a lot of weight. What was the cause? It’s hormonal and still an on going issue I am working on balancing. As a public figure I feel the pressure of keeping a certain physique. I know I talked about maybe plastic surgery, but I just don’t think that’s in the cards for me. Over the past couple of years, I’ve seen more and more women fighting the aging process and I’ve come to terms with my body changing.

It’s natural to feel a sense of dismay when you start losing your youth, and don’t listen to the internet bros’ because they’ll have you thinking your worth as a woman diminishes after 25 years. Of course, I don’t like to listen to the opinions of men about how I should and shouldn’t take care of my body. I’m not a feminist, I’m a sovereign being. My body my choice.

Don’t get it twisted. This is a daily process of learning to love your body. I know a lot of my male fans have noticed the lack of new content and that’s because it was so hard for me to see myself naked. For years I was thin and curvaceous. Now, I’m more of  “A hamburger away from being fat”. I didn’t create new content for my socials. Once Instagram and TikTok took my accounts last December I gave up. It’s gut wrenching to see all your hard work washed away because they allow bullies to rule the internet.

I also took a job last October teaching for Loyal Fans. I taught two business classes a month for an entire year. My goal was to work with them  full time so I could start creating less content. My plan was going great until it wasn’t. I don’t want to get into why I was let go, but I was blind-sided. All the hard work and time was gone again, but this time I wasn’t devastated. Was my feeling hurt? Yes, but I learned so much from that one year of teaching that I am now ready to start teaching my own workshops. Not only did losing my job create more time for me to build my classes, but I now have time to finish my book.

It’s been years since I started the editing process. I kept putting it off because I didn’t have an ending.  I’d like to announce I know I have an ending and my goal is to self-publish by my birthday, February 8, 2024. I have edited 18 chapters so far which is more than I had accomplished in the past. I feel confident that I will finish this book by my deadline. I’ll update y’all more on the book later.

In the meantime, I am also back in business coaching class. By the end of next year, I will have my certification with Lisa Michaels. Part of the process is to start hosting my own workshops and offer coaching sessions. More details about what I will be offering will be coming very soon! I am working on building out this site to include a workshop area for online learning.

You may be wondering what is next for my paying sites? I’m not shutting them down. This is not a blog post on my retirement. What I plan for 2024 is to get all past content edited with my new domain and added to my Loyal Fans video store. OnlyFans will still be my VIP site where everything comes with the membership. They will both be updated with fresh new content, but maybe not as frequent as before because I have a ton of editing to do. The ending goal for the Melody Jai brand is to have all content on one platform so it’s easier to manage. Once again, I am NOT shutting down my sites this year.

Let’s all look forward to a path of fulfillment and closures. I know it’s time for me to close chapters and complete cycles. That’s what I am working on going into January of 2024.

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